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1. Relax your mind...and body
Maybe you've always wanted to go in through the back door, but haven't had the chance to cross it off your sexual bucket list yet. No matter your experience level, you might be in search of tips to make your next anal sex experience the best it can be—and who better to guide you than Dr. With her help, we assembled a guide to anal sex for beginner and advanced practitioners, from the hottest positions to the best toys to add an extra boost of pleasure. Here's how to have mind-blowing anal sex, whether it's your first or five-hundredth time. Before you even think about approaching the back door, you need to have "the talk" with your partner. Find out if you're both on the same page about experimenting with butt stuff—and if it turns out they're not into it, do not pressure them. You're both down to try it? Now, hold your horses: The key to first-time anal sex is going slow, Vrangalova says.
2. Communicate openly
Going from having nothing up your ass ever to suddenly a whole penis can be jarring in many ways. The rumors are true: Anal does have the possibility of getting messy. If you want extra peace of mind, make sure the surface you and your partner engage on is comfortable and washable. Sure, the idea of a numbing cream that protects you from feeling any potential pain during anal is nice, but the risk for injury down the line is not worth it. Take any pressure to perform off yourself by trying penetrative anal sex alone first. Get a toy and a condom for easier cleanup and go at your own pace. Either way is a hundred percent fine, and if he keeps pressuring you when you have made it clear that it is not on the table, tell him to suck it.
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